Weekend Wins

This weekend, find the time to do one or more of these things…

  1. Smile at your own reflection in the mirror
  2. Tell yourself you are worth it
  3. Notice what makes you happy
  4. Surprise someone with a phone call
  5. Sit in silence for 5 minutes and just hear the things you miss

Why am I suggesting you do this?

Because it’s a really good thing to do now and again…

No other reason than that…

Have a great weekend everyone – stay safe and well

No time, not in my diary….

She wanted to lose weight and exercise more, she couldn’t find the time, is where we started our conversation…

She is a successful business owner, she works long hours and loves what she does. Her customers know she is awesome too!

Why couldn’t she eat more healthily and take a little exercise? NO TIME!!!

She really could not find any time to exercise, to plan healthier meals – she was too tired all the time, she craved carbs in the form of bread usually.

I worked with her to explore what was behind her wish to lose weight and exercise and also what barriers she was facing. Getting this information out and on the table took a while, she was really defensive initially, after all, she really believed she had no time, that was the truth, or so she told herself.

Cutting a longer story short, because I know you want to know what happened…

She found time for herself, in her busy day, to take a walk and to rethink her eating habits. Whilst this was one session, we worked together to change a very set belief of having no time, to finding some time to take a walk, research eating plans and most of all bring some of her business boss attitude to her own life, as a boss she was a success and those skills can be transferred to her eating and exercise plans going forwards.

This client completed One Mind Body Life Program [1]; where you can challenge your beliefs and change your behaviours, once you understand how you think and what you think impacts what you do and how well you do it. Knowing this you can really start to think more clearly. This program includes a Mindsonar Profile.

One Mind Body Life Program [1] including Mindsonar Profile is a series of three sessions totalling 3 hours, a 40 minute online assessment, a summary report and a full 20 plus page comprehensive report for an investment of £349 plus vat

One Mind Body Life Program [2] is a further 4 sessions totalling 6 hours where your breakthroughs in [OMBL 1] are developed, new beliefs and behaviours introduced and hypnotherapy sessions are used to embed resources and learning to create new more helpful habits is £399 plus vat.

If you book OMBL [1] and OMBL [2] at the same time you will receive a discount of £98 – investment is £650 plus vat

Want to know my secret?

Earlier this year, before lockdown I took part in a transformation fitness challenge at Orange Theory Fitness, here in Derby. I had found great coaches and lots of new friends to spur me on.

I did have a secret though…I recruited my subconscious mind as my biggest and best cheerleader.

I lost 2 stone, in 8 weeks and won!

I found a way of eating I liked and loved the gym mindset for the first time ever!

It wasn’t easy, I had just weighed in at my heaviest after Christmas, and I had a frozen shoulder, back and knee problems. I am also 55. You can see why I was super pleased to get the winner notification!

How did I do this you might be thinking?

I’m a qualified hypnotherapist, so I made a recording that was so specific to me, that it couldn’t fail to give me the best possible mindset to do well.

What challenges are you facing and how might you improve your successes?

Relaxation Hypnotherapy Session £49 Special Offer

Try 60 minutes of total relaxation hypnotherapy.

This session can take down any anxiety you may be experiencing, increase your ability to relax.

You will receive time to be yourself, free of fears, worries and responsibilities; where you can recharge and energise to face the challenges during these difficult times.

Please get in touch to book your session

Directors on PAYE Offer

So, when the lockdown started, my husband and I discussed could either of us be furloughed? We also went through the pro’s and con’s of doing this and the fact that we, like many people pay ourselves via the PAYE system and take dividends. For us, it didn’t work, for several reasons…

As a business owner, you have existing clients you need to look after. So not returning calls or answering emails isn’t an option.

As you are always looking ahead, you might have potential clients that you are developing a relationship with, its not going to help the business if you just stop communications is it.

Then there is the whole thing about finances; can you afford to be furloughed on 80% of your PAYE salary? Do you have savings? Can you access any of the governments support to help your business? Do you have staff to worry about too?

So, my offer is that if you are a Director of a small limited company with less than 20 employees; and you are not furloughed. I will offer a 60 minute hypnotherapy session free of charge. Yes, that is correct, free of charge.

What I would then say is, let’s get out of the together – so all I’d ask for in return is a testimonial from you. I will use this on my social media and my website.

In return, I will make a positive post about your business on Linked In – we can agree the content after your session.

Does this work for you? If it does get in touch and lets get your session booked in. This offer is limited to 10 bookings, one per person, booked by 31 May 2020.

NHS & Key Worker Offer

I am offering up to 10 lovely NHS or Key Workers who live or work in Derby to receive one 60 minute relaxation hypnotherapy session – free of charge.

Perhaps you might like to be on a beach or a beautiful garden, we will find a great place for your relaxation session.

This same offer is available at £49 for anyone else during May 2020.

So, all you need to do is either self refer or be nominated by someone, send proof of status. Then I will get in touch with you to schedule your session.

This session will be delivered by Zoom, so we can observe all the required distancing. You will need either a smart phone, tablet or computer to recieve the invitation. You can find out more here www.zoom.us

This offer is limited to 10 60 minute bookings in May 2020

‘I have never worked so hard’ said my husband!

All our worries about COVID 19 and social distancing has caused lots of people to look at new ways to work. So, I thought I would share with you a couple of things I have noticed since sharing my home office with my husband…

1. He works at a different pace to me… he is a designer, so I can see his drawing board and him perched on his tall chair. He draws a line, then strokes the new beardy look he has adopted… then sighs, leans back and then nothing… for ages!

2. He is restless – so wanders around trying to find things not to do! He says it’s creative thinking time. I get that, just not the way I do it!

3. He isn’t a people person – well he is actually, but what he is amazed at is how I can be totally professional and patient and not get ruffled when I am on a difficult call or zoom meeting! He tells me that a call like that, would derail him totally, put him off his creativity.

4. He like tea even more than me! Wow do we drink lots of tea and cappuccino’s. My daily routine has gone out the window… I usually work from home and am used to 10am and 3pm tea breaks, timed of course for filling / emptying dishwasher and washer, letting Geoffrey out and giving him a bonio…

5. He eats more than me. We have breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks. Biscoff’s with our cappuccino’s and he has me baking scones! I am not sure this is sustainable!

6. He is adorable, yes I have to admit, seeing him at work, something I have never seen before is quite an experience. I watch his hands as he creates beautiful architectural drawings [old school hand drawing- no CAD for him] I have noticed how he smiles when he talks to his clients, and he laughs with them a lot. He is charming and I guess this is why he is great at his job. People buy from him because they like him and he is talented.

7. He likes What’s App and Messenger – a lot! Although, a few times a phone call or zoom might have been a better option. I suggested this to him one day after he shared a message trail with me. I could tell the client wasn’t visualising what he was saying… that he just call her. He did and he had a whole different conversation than the one he thought he was going to have.

8. He isn’t keen on paperwork! He is getting me to do his admin work, I am ok with this, we are both working differently. However, I am surprised how disorganised he can be with bits of paper everywhere. My usually tidy work space troubles me a bit, the annoying thing is the eraser bits that he flicks off his drawing board onto my desk [its the perfect angle and distance] How rude!

9. He is really into ‘relaxed dressing’ for his work. So I have seen him in all kids of clothing, including his PJ’s- lycra cycling gear [he was waiting for rain to stop] and a bath towel! He normally wears either tweeds or linen suits and shirts, smart leather shoes, has a clean shaven chin and smells gorgeous… I might like him to go back to work one day – sort of miss this version of him.

10. He is surprised by how hard I work! I was not expecting this from him, he says I work too many hours, I am always doing zoom calls, he suggested I need to break more often, I guess he is seeing me at my work for the first time too! What I have decided is his version of a ‘hard day at work’ is very different to mine – it is however equal to mine, in different ways. I could never do what he does, and he accepts he couldn’t do what I do. He did tell a client that ‘I have never worked so hard, since sharing an office with my wife’ which made me smile and write this post!

Loss, not easy is it?

A few days ago, our much-loved Airedale Terrier, Frankie died. She was 3 years old and full of life. We had even been thinking of letting her have a litter of puppies this year. So, things have been a little ‘out of sorts’ for me.

Yesterday, I was walking our other Airedale Terrier, Geoffrey, we were approaching a gate, I normally had two of them pushing through at the same time, this time, Geoffrey hung back and waited for me to go through then he followed.

Suddenly, out of nowhere I felt an intense feeling of loss. Of her, of her puppies she’d never have, of her barky conversations and her love of playing ball. Tears flowed down my cheeks and Geoffrey stayed closer than normal as we finished our walk.

It got me thinking, during the lockdown period, lots of people are talking about loss. People have lost loved ones, friends and it is hard not to be affected with the numbers of deaths each day, especially those people who have lost their lives doing their job in the NHS and other keyworker roles.

Loss can also be about other things too, loss of freedom, loss of playtime with friends, loss of routine, of sports and not forgetting loss of income, loss of savings nest eggs, loss of bonuses and tips.

Loss can be about loss of human connection, of touch, of that time to just be with someone you love. Loss can be of great moments that would normally have been shared, birth of a new baby, an engagement or even a birthday party.

If you have a feeling of loss, it can creep up and surprise you, things can seem to be ok, then not ok. You feel fine, then not fine. If this happens to you, what could you do?

I got home from that walk and I sat in the garden, glorious sunshine warming my skin. Closed my eyes and recalled the wonderful times I had with Frankie, the sofa she helped un-stuff, the way she tilted her head when she was listening to me, and slowly the feeling of loss started to move within me, I realised that it is perfectly ok to feel sad, to feel loss and you don’t need to be scared to show how you feel.

If you are currently experiencing loss of any kind, you may find talking to someone can help you put things into perspective.

You might like to speak to a family member, a friend or a professional, there are also lots of online and telephone support services. Just want to let you know, no matter how and when your loss sneaks up on you, there is always someone willing to help you.

If you read this and want to talk to me, then you can always get in touch.

Living your ‘best life ever’

imagesFR6WKVX0I was pleased to work with a lovely man this week… he wanted to live his best life ever and felt that there was ‘part’ of him that wanted to stay as he was and maintain the status quo in his life; and another ‘part’ of him that wanted to ‘really live his life’ which meant some significant changes were needed…

When you have two [or more parts] of yourself in conflict it is time to work with them, and let them have their say – why are they in conflict? What skills or knowledge might they share to improve the situation?

If you have two or more parts in your life in conflict then why not come and see me?