Be a great mate… men’s mental health matters

So, what makes a great mate? Well taking inspiration from some great advice online I have compiled the following ideas…

What a mate might say…

‘How are you?’2-men-talking-re-size

Mate’s reply goes something like  ‘good’ or ‘I’m ok’

What a great mate might say…

How are you? – Get’s the same response as above AND they see something or hear something that they get a feeling about… maybe there might be something that isn’t being said.

So a great mate might choose to follow up with something like this…

‘You sure?’

[this is an opening question – it says you are there and interested]

‘Great, I am here if you need me’

[this says, I hear your answer and respect your privacy, and I am willing to be a great mate’]

‘Much on at work?’ ‘you been on holiday yet?’ ‘how’s the family’

[this says, I’m up for a conversation, a great mate has good ears and uses them]

“what did you think of last weeks game’ or  ‘how’s the house coming on’

[this says, just a bit of a natter, no pressure, keep it away from serious stuff, and if it develops into a bit of something else, I am a great mate, I am all ears!]

“Glad you’re good, I have had a bit of a time of it lately’

[this says, I’m a great mate and I am open to you talking to me about my stuff – sort of sets an example]

 Just a few ways where you can be a great mate and really be the difference!


The Men’s Head Space Manual

I love a good book and I love to pass on the books that might help someone. I read it and thought how it ‘does what it says’ it could help a person stop and think, check out their feelings and seek support if needed.

This is what some readers have said about this book… You can  Buy here

This book is a short and sweet read with lots of helpful tips and knowledge to take in. Finished it in a couple of hours, I love the way the book is presented and laid out. And the tone of the author is very considerate and warming. Very enjoyable read. Dan Richards [ Amazon Review]

Indeed this book could help. It is written in a way which is clear, concise and very much to the point. The design makes the book look good and helps the ideas become easy to access. It is written for men who are not used to thinking about how they feel and shows some really practical ways of coping with mental health difficulties. It manages to be informative, practical and simple without being in the slightest bit patronising. Akinsete,  shows a very genuine respect and care for his readership. He clearly knows them well. Judy Ryde [Amazon Review]

Great news… 25% off for any booking made in September…

It’s that time of year when we all start thinking about holidays long gone and winter nights drawing in! If you don’t like this time of year it might manifest itself in areas of your life… making it even worse! So September is a great time to clear out the mind clutter and set some happy to look forwards to goals just for you!

Look what arrived this week….

What great guys they are over at The Cam Coach, sending this out to all their Masters Students. Clients can be reassured about the quality of their coaches, ones who work at their best, to get you where you want to go. If you train with the best, and invest in yourself… the reward comes when you work with your clients and see their successes.

Win – Win


Invitation to a Mindsonar Event on 23 July 2019

Imagine if you had a tool that could x-ray the mind and tell you how someone thinks…what would you do with it?

Well this amazing tool actually exists and my colleague Ian Clarke from MindSonar is running a workshop on 23rd July when you’ll discover more about this powerful tool, how to use it and how it can enhance performance to deliver better business results.

You’ll even use the tool yourself and get feedback on your own mind x-ray!

So if you’re curious to know how to unlock potential and manage strengths rather than weaknesses, you absolutely must be at this workshop – it’s eye-opening stuff.

Here’s the booking link:


Don’t worry if you are in this category, we have all been there at some time in our lives.


‘delay or postpone action; put off doing something’

Words you may find you have been using…

delay, put off doing something, postpone action, defer action, be dilatory, use delaying tactics, stall, play for time, play a waiting game, dally, drag one’s feet/heels, take one’s time…

if you’d like some more ‘action and doing words’ about the things you are passionate about. Then I can help!